Wednesday, March 4, 2009

I'm back.....sort of.

To make a 7-month story short...the doctors told me that my dad had only 2 to 3 months to live (they thought he had metastasized colon cancer even though all the tests were "inconclusive"), so in July, I flew home to Toronto, threw a bunch of stuff in my car and raced back to Arizona to see him through this final process. His wife, a lovely lady, has Alzheimer's, so they both needed assistance. I was a full-time caregiver for several months, but instead of passing away, my dad got better! Eventually I told him that we had to make some serious decisions regarding his future because I needed to go home and remind my husband that he's married. :-) After a lot of resistance, Dad and his wife Nikki finally agreed to move into an assisted living facility near Phoenix to be near Nikki's son. I got them moved, fixed up their little apartment beautifully, sold all of their possessions, fixed up their house and put it on the market. Amazingly, despite the devastated housing market in Arizona, it sold immediately.

I value the time I got to spend with my dad and Nikki, but it was exceedingly stressful. Alzheimer's is a terrible disease and it was painful to watch a lovely, loving lady gradually decline. And to make a stressful situation even worse, the economic collapse wreaked havoc on my dad's financial situation. When we first started looking at assisted living options, my detailed spreadsheet analysis (I am an M.B.A., after all) showed that he could afford it as long as he was careful with his money. By the time they moved, things were looking pretty grim. The chance of outliving their money is very real now. I have been having trouble sleeping because of the worry over his financial situation.

I apologize to all the people who kept checking this blog and finding nothing. I WILL be getting back to it, but it will take awhile to get back into polymer clay. After not touching the stuff for over 7 months, I treated myself to the Cabin Fever Clay Festival in Maryland. Good fun and a nice way to start thinking about clay again. But first, I'm off to Hungary to visit my good friend from business school who is the American Ambassador to Hungary. Her assignment is about to end so we will have a little fun before she comes home.

If I have internet access, I will report from Budapest.

2 comments:

2 Good Claymates - Dave and Carolyn Good said...

Hi Cynthia, So glad to have you back. Was thinking about you and wondering how things were. Hope you have a great time on your trip and you come back feeling energized!

Carolyn and Dave

Seth Savarick said...

Hey Cynthia,

Glad your back. Sorry for all your stress but happy to hear you dad is doing alright! Let me know when your back from Hungry. Want to catch with you.

Warmest Regards,

Seth